Chaste and Feminine

Yesterday marked the beginning of my third month in chastity.  As required, early in the morning i sent Diane and Paul a copy of the daily Chastity Report that included a monthly and year-to-date summary of the time i've been in chastity.

In February i spent 81.62% of the time locked up in my CB-3000.  Year-to-date, the percentage is a bit higher at 85.29%.  February's drop in percentage was driven by our hosting guests for a two week period and the various activities that surrounded that time.

Diane is very happy with the percentage of time i've been locked up.  Similarly, i am pleased but also proud of what i've been able to accomplish.  The percentages are far greater than either one of us thought they'd be and are driven by the fact that almost every night, i've slept in chastity, despite some morning discomfort.

i still find it surprising and remarkable that this has worked so well.  If you recall, Diane was never a fan of chastity, insisting that the whole thing would be too much work.  She prefers a "low maintenance submissive" and in that regard  She's trained me quite well.  The chastity has turned out to be pretty low maintenance and as i get used to it, should be even easier for Her.

In addition, the "results" of this effort aren't only manifested by the hard data She and Paul see every day.   Sure, those numbers represent concrete and easily measurable results, but they fail to take into account other intangible benefits that my chastity has provided.  Among these are a more submissive demeanor (i know, that's hard to believe i could be more submissive), greater obedience, a calmness that comes from accepting my sex life is under Diane's total control and even greater commitment to  my role as Her sissy wife.

Finally, chastity has at times made me feel more feminine. Yes, i am in panties 24/7 and very often wearing more than just lingerie, but the pink CB-3000 also enhances my submissive femininity.  Even if i'm wearing just a pair of panties, or even nothing at all, the cute little pink cage and lock between my legs reminds me of my sissy wife status!

However, it's always nice to get really "gurlied" up while in chastity.  Maybe a cute pink corset like this.  Do you think it's feminine enough?

The photo is courtesy of my sissy gurlfriend Jo Bradford.  Kisses Jo.....xox!

And for those of you who guessed that the last pair of panties shown in yesterday's post were my favorite, you guessed right!  But let's be honest, i'd be happy to wear any of them!

love,

sissy terri

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Dressing Like a Lady

When compared to men's, women's clothing is much more complicated and difficult to put on.  No wonder women (and crossdressers) take so much longer to get ready.  In a previous post, I wrote about the difficulties I used to have with putting on my bras, and how Diane used to make me practice in front of her until I became an "expert" at it.  There are still times when I struggle, but those times are very rare and they usually come with a brand new bra that I'm not used to.

Bras aren't the only thing that's difficult to put on.  Another example are dresses, particularly fitted ones, that have zippers in the back.  I can't remember how many times I got myself tied up like a pretzel before finally getting the darned thing zipped all the way up to the top.  I am in good shape and fairly nimble, but a contortionist I'm not!  Just like I've done for Diane many times since we've been married, she now reciprocates and  sometimes helps "zip me up!"

Regular button down shirts are another item that still feel awkward because the buttons are reverse from men's shirts.  I suppose if I grew up buttoning all my shirts that way it would come more naturally, but it still seems a little awkward.  I wonder who decided ladies' shirts should be made this way and why?  Since I've been dressing at home all the time and become Diane's "wife", more and more of my shirts are in a women's style.  I wear them like I would any other shirt and even with male slacks or shorts.  I doubt anyone ever really notices the difference!

Men's clothes on the other hand are incredibly simple to put on.  No zippers in the back, buttons that you can fasten in no time and nothing like brassieres to deal with.

Corsets????  Well that's a whole other story!  I have a couple and have become quite adept at tightening them so that I have a very nice hourglass figure.  Naturally, when Diane laces me it helps reduce my waist even more.  But then again, corsets have this erotic allure about them don't they?  I think everyone would agree they're best enjoyed in the company of another!

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Tightlacing

I've owned several corsets.  They're an interesting piece of clothing; filled with sensuality and eroticism.  For a time, Diane even enjoyed wearing one to accentuate her already beautiful figure.  She doesn't do so any more, but enjoys lacing me sometimes.

When I first started wearing a corset, she would lace me up for a few hours each day until I became accustomed to it.  I also lost a few pounds and the corseting got my waist to an unbelievably small number!  I have a 31 inch waist and at times, Diane has reduced it to 22 inches with some very, very tight lacing.  That may seem extreme, but for those who have worn corsets before, you know that it isn't impossible. 

Diane decided to lace me today.  I'm wearing a rather plain underbust corset and my waist is "only" reduced to about 24 or 25 inches.  Better than the 22" so I can do housework more easily.  On average I wear a corset 20 to 30 hours per week.  Looks like today is going to be an all day thing!

The restrictive feeling of the corset provides me with a simultaneous feeling of submissiveness and femininity.  It's a special feeling for someone like me.

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Corsets Anyone?

Many years ago I developed an interest in corsets.  I wouldn't say it was a fetish, although I did find them to be very erotic and arousing to me.  I mentioned it to Diane and we never really talked much about it until a few years later.  We were visiting wine country in California and were staying in San Francisco for a few days.  Vacations away from home always provide you with an opportunity to be yourself, let your hair down, etc.  At least that's the way it is with us. 

We decided to visit a fetish clothing shop while there and the assortment of corsets was incredible.  I almost died when Diane insisted that I get one.  The shop sold corsets online which were custom made, but there were many on the rack and I was expertly fitted by the woman who ran the shop.  Talk about an erotically humiliating experience!  I had my first corset - it was a white underbust corset and I loved it.

It took some getting used to.  Diane got better at lacing me and over time, we were able to get it tighter and tighter until it was time for a new one.  I've never been obese or very overweight, but at one time, my waist was up to a 36.  Corsetting, or tightlacing as they call it, has helped me stay motivated to remain slim.  Since that first corset, my waist is now down to 31" and corsetting helps me reduce it to a very shapely looking 24" or less.  Diane loves the hourglass look it gives me.

I probably spend about 24 or so hours per week in a corset on average.  Today, Diane put me in a corset before we went out to church.  With a sport coat, it's difficult to see and no one really notices.  On one occasion, a lady friend of ours gave me a hug and asked if I was wearing a back brace when she felt the stiffness of the corset.  I told her that yes, I sometimes had a bad back and had to wear a brace.  "Oh you poor thing!" she said.  If only she knew how lucky I really was!

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