Housewife or Househusband?

Traditional gender roles continue to blur.  Nothing is simply black and white anymore, or even male and female.  Women in authority are more prevalent in the workplace and at home, the roles are even more confusing. 

But if you're a married male and responsible for all the housework and domestic duties at home, and you do them while dressed, then face the music...your not a househusband.

You're a housewife.  Or at a minimum, a sissy wife.  Just enjoy it.

love,

sissy terri

P.S. - Did you see my sissy sister Leeane's "confession" yesterday in a comment to my blog post?  If not, make sure you read it here.  i'm so happy i'm not "alone."

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Women's Work - It's For Sissies Too!

It's going to be a pretty busy weekend, one made busier by the fact that i was away at a conference most of the day yesterday.  It was right here in town so i at least i didn't have to travel, but it took time away from my "housewife" duties.  We've also got a few things going on over the next couple of days which will also detract from my housework.  No matter how busy we get, those duties remain my responsibility and i have to get them done.

Two recent and rather significant additions to our lifestyle, chastity and my involvement with Diane and Her lover Paul, seem to have taken up most of the space on this blog and for good reason.  They were both very emotionally challenging issues to deal with.  Far more difficult than hand washing the lingerie, ironing, laundry, dusting, washing the bathrooms and vacuuming! 

A few years ago when i was recently retired and we were at a cocktail party, Diane said to no one in particular how nice it was to have a husband who was retired. "The house is always nice and clean when i get home and all the housework's done" was how She put it.  One of the men in our circle grumbled "Ahhh....that's women's work.  I'd have to find something else to do!"  His wife then joked that he'd rather trip over his own clothes on the floor than pick them up.  There was a little laughter before we moved on to another and far more interesting topic, but there was also a loving look and smile from Diane.

i suppose in many of today's modern marriages domestic duties are shared equally among both spouses.  As such, the term "women's work" might seem very outdated, old-fashioned and sexist.  i'd have to agree.

i like the term though.  i also think that in many ways, ours is a modern marriage also.  It's one where traditional spousal roles are eschewed for something different.  One where i as the male embrace the challenge of taking on what used to be viewed as exclusively the woman's responsibilities.

But in the midst of all that's happened here the past several months, i've continued to fulfill my domestic responsibilities.  All the woman's work i have to do is far less exciting and sexually thrilling
than the cuckolding, chastity and other aspects of Diane's domination over me.  As routine as it is, it never becomes totally mundane.  i always get to wear something feminine and pretty to do housework.  It's a reminder of who i am and the role i've lovingly accepted.

i also have "wifey" responsibilities in the bedroom.  i get to dress pretty for those too!

love,

sissy terri

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A Steford Sissy Wife

i've always been fascinated with (and fantasized about) the whole notion of being a "Stepford Wife."  The idea of being a submissive and docile "wife" is no doubt a fantasy of many sissies like me.  The novel by Ira Levin that was published in 1972 has helped to popularize that perfect combination of submissiveness and femininity. 

Yesterday i came across a reference on the web that led me to this link to some of photographer's Christine McConnell's work.  i had some of her stuff but didn't pay much attention most of the time.  However one of the photos that was featured in the piece i saw yesterday was enough to get my undivided attention.  It was this "1950s-style, Stepford Wives-inspired self-portrait."

According to the commentary under the photo, the picture is noteworthy because it "showcased all of her talents: modeling, painting, sewing, baking, styling hair and makeup, and photographing."  No doubt she's certainly a lady who's talented in some very traditional feminine tasks.

Seeing the photo was very timely and coincidental for me.  This week i spent time at Jake's house, doing housework, tidying up and making sure the house was in perfect order when he got home.  Like a good Stepford Wife, i served him his favorite beer and snacks before i knelt by his side ready to pleasure him.

Pictures like this and other 1950's style housewife photos, art and stories help put me in the proper feminine and submissive mindset that make doing housework and pleasing Diane or Jake more enjoyable for me.

Housework and other similar chores that are my responsibility aren't always enjoyable.  In a fantasy world they are, but in reality they aren't.  Dressing properly, getting into the correct frame of mind and accepting and embracing my status makes it easier and femininely fulfilling.

love,

sissy terri

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If They Could See Me Now

It's a very "housewifey" type of day today.  Some laundry, errands, grocery shopping and a little housework.  Even though we have a cleaning lady that comes in once a week, some things remain my sole responsibility. 

As i strut about in my dress, pump and aprons going about my duties, i sometimes wonder what some friends of mine would think if they saw me this way.  Especially friends from the past that I've remained in contact with even though we're now more than two thousand miles away.  Those that remember me from my childhood years or as a young professional when i wasn't nearly as submissive as i am now. 

Being "outed" for who you really are is a difficult thing.  Other than Jake, the only person i've been totally outed to is Diane's friend Linda.  i suppose i should qualify that.  Linda knows i dress, that i'm submissive to Diane and that i know about Diane's relationship with Paul.  i don't know that Linda knows all the inner workings of our relationship, like that i'm now having my "period" and am wearing a tampon!

It was difficult when i was first outed and when Linda saw me fully dressed.  No matter how much you prepare for it it's hard to deal with.  But i got over it.  Diane told me i was making a big deal about it for nothing and as usual, She was correct. 

i have no intention of living full time as a female, nor do i want people i've known for a long time to find out about our private life.  But people who would disown you as a friend over something like that are probably not the type of people you want as real friends anyway. 

love,

sissy terri

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Vintage Femininity

If some of you follow my tumblr blog "A Married Sissy Cuckold", you might know that i have a fondness for vintage feminine fashion.  i'm particularly fond of those styles that were popular in the 50's and 60's, even though i wasn't alive in the 50's and too young to appreciate any of the early 60's.  Just the same, i'm old enough to appreciate the feminine elegance that was on display during that time.

As evidenced by the many tumblr blogs that show photos from that era along with some of the blogs and aother writings you can find on the internet, i know i'm not alone.  There are others like me who are likely around the same age or older who love that look.

My musings today deal with the question of the younger crossdressers who are out there and whether or not they also have a fondness for those types of fashions or, because of their age difference, view the fashion in later decades the way i view those of the 50's and 60's?  For instance, do they yearn for those of the 70's and even 80's? 

This picture of a hot pink maribou peignoir set from the 1960's is what got me to thinking about this question.  Oddly enough, the information on the tumblr blog where i found it,  Miss E Normuss, might have provided at least a bit of insight into the answer.  On the blog, Miss E briefly describes herself as a 21 year old UK housewife.  That would mean she was born around 1993, a few decades after this pegnoir set was in fashion!


i guess it proves that in the eyes of many, beautiful feminine fashion is always something to admire, even if it has gone "out of style."

love,

sissy terri

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Simple Sissy Saturday

Diane went into the office today, even though it's closed.  She had a busy week and says She has to catch up on things.  She could easily catch up on those things here.  i wouldn't be a distraction.  I'm sure part ofHher "catching up" might include a visit from Paul. 

She understand the funk i am in and is helping me get and stay out of it but under Her terms. 

"Be looking pretty for me when I get back this afternoon.  I'll call you" She told me  She also added that She owed me a spanking.  i asked Her what i did wrong. 

"I read your blog post last night.  Did you forget the rules about capitalization?" She said.

i told her i hadn't but had probably made a mistake. 

She left without a comment.  It was a small exchange but one that made me feel like i was getting back into Her life, O/our life.  What i did, or didn't do, mattered to Her.  i felt ignored, insignificant but at the same time important.  Sounds crazy but that's how i felt.

i'd put on simple white cotton panties today.  Nothing fancy but they make me feel feminine and like a housewife. 

 

But now i know that i'll have to change into something prettier for my spanking, and that makes me feel as good as i have in a long time!

love,

sissy terri

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Housekeeping Tips For Sissies

Acceptance of one's subservient status in a Female Led Relationship doesn't mean it's the same for everyone.  i'm sure in many successful FLR's, the power dynamic may exist strictly from a sexual perspective, while others are totally different.  My own situation with Diane goes well beyond the sexual aspect.  It covers every part of our lives, even though there are times when it might not seem evident, depending upon who we're with and where we are.  But never are there any indications that i'm the one in charge.

It's clear that i play the role that's been traditionally seen as the "wife."  Even though things are changing so fast when it comes to gender equality, Diane wants me to be responsible for everything that we grew up viewing as "woman's work."  i do it, and i do it as best as i can.  i also take a feminine approach to all the things i do around the house.

i thought i'd share the following article from Shine on Yahoo called "How to Keep Your Clothes Looking New."  Most of the material is things a good "wife" already knows, but it helps to read all the tips and information provided in one place.  It's good information for whoever is responsible for the laundry in your home.  i also know that there are many submissive husbands who enjoy playing the role of the "lady of the house", even though their wives aren't going along with it 100%.  Getting better at what you do might help convince her!

Also, if you haven't visited Shine on Yahoo, take the time to do so.  There are plenty of housekeeping, fashion and beauty tips, recipes and other femme type things you're sure to enjoy.

i also want to apologize for the spam comments that keep showing up on my blog.  i'm trying to fix it but am not a blogging expert.  i'd like to be able to have it set up where you have to enter a code to post a comment, but can't seem to find that option.  If anyone can walk me through it, email me the instructions and i'd be forever grateful!

love,

sissy terri

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A Housewife's Holiday Duties

Holidays can be fun but it seems like every year we find ourselves rushing around at the last minute, despite our earlier promises to avoid all the commercialism and craziness. 

This year, it's been my job to coordinate everything to do with the holidays.  This includes most all of the shopping for gifts, responding to party invitations, decorating the house and getting ready for the party we are hosting here at our home tonight.  "It's what stay at home housewives do" Diane insists.

The fact that She's entrusted me with all this work makes me feel very special in some ways.  It's quite a bit of work and She's checked in with me regularly on my progress.  I've only had to return and exchange a few of the gifts I bought and so far, Diane's been quite pleased with what i've accomplished. 

Tonight's the big event though.  We'll have about 50 people attending the party.  Some of our friends and some of Diane's co-workers.  One of the guests will be Her friend Linda.  Linda knows about Diane and Brian and just recently, Diane's shared more information about our lifestyle with Her.  Diane said Linda suspected all along that i was submissive and i think She's right.  It's still difficult for that "secret" to be out. 

i'm happy to be blogging again but finding it a little more difficult to share all the emotions i feel and the anxiety over what's around the corner with Brian.  Fantasies are crafted in one's mind over a long period of time and conveniently never deal with realities.  i'll be facing those realities soon and it's difficult.

For now, i'm enjoying being me:  A married sissy, submissive to my Wife and happy.  i hope Her happiness will be enough to keep me happy in the coming months. 

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The Good Little Housewife

"Aren't you the good little housewife?" Diane said to me the other night, her comments dripping with sensual and sarcastic domination.  i was wearing one of my prettiest aprons when she got home from work and had a lovely dinner all prepared for the two of us.

It was sort of a special occasion, a corny anniversary of sorts.  Not a wedding anniversary but a date that we've always remembered for romantic reasons.  Just because things have changed so much for us was no reason to stop our little tradition.  Diane was glad i remembered, and i was happy She was pleased. 

Although i did all the preparation and serving of the dinner, when we sat down and toasted with a glass of Her favorite wine, i almost felt like Her equal as opposed to Her submissive.  Even though i was dressed in a very pretty housewife-like  print dress with a pearl necklace and matching earrings, we talked intimately and enjoyed dinner very much. 

Diane seemed to enjoy the dinner so much She even told me She felt guilty about not having lifted a finger to assist in its preparation and volunteered to help clean up.  I refused Her help and told Her to just relax and i would join Her soon.  "That's the good little housewife in you" She said and after pausing added "that I love so much."  She just smiled and went into the living room to finish her second glass of wine.  She made a couple of calls on Her cell while She was there, but i couldn't really make out who they were to.  One of them could of been Brian but i just couldn't be sure.

i joined Her later and sat next to Her on the sofa.  She reached over and kissed me softly and it felt so nice.  "I really don't know how to reward you for such a wonderful dinner and evening" She told me, "everything was absolutely delicious and just right."  i told Her there was no need to repay me at all, just to continue loving me.  "I'll always love you.  You'll never have to worry about that."  It was beautiful the way She said it.

"But I do need to reward my good little housewife in a special way.  I want to do something special for you, something very, very significant" She said as She smiled at me.  "Would you like that?"

i told Her i would love anything She would do for me.  "I know you would sweetheart" She said.

Somehow, i think She knows exactly what that special reward is, but isn't prepared to share it with me. 

On another note, i haven't been able to blog much lately because of my consulting job.  It got busier than anticipated and the next few months are going to be the same.  i'm making more money than i thought i would and as promised, it is turned over to Diane and i'm given an allowance.  It's a pretty generous allowance, but the fact that i turn it over to Her makes me feel more submissive.

i am seeing Jake tomorrow here at our house. He doesn't have much time but i want to see him very much.  i don't like being rushed but it's either that or not see him until next week or the week after.  i'm going to do my best to look as feminine as possible for his arrival and do my best to please him. 

Diane is working tomorrow morning and we leave in the afternoon to fly to New York for a wedding on Long Island Saturday.  We're also going with Diane's friend Linda and her husband.  It's a funny feeling, especially that Linda now knows that i know that Diane is having an affair with Brian.  She knows i'm a cuckold, just not the whole extent of it. 

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Wifey Stuff

My part-time consulting commitment has been rather slow lately.  It should have given me more time to blog but it hasn't worked out that way.  A couple of other things came up this past week which kept me away from the computer.  And, my consulting thing is going to heat up in a couple of weeks when the next phase of the project starts.

In the meantime, Diane's kept me focused on more "wifey things" as She likes to call them.  The list of to-do's seems to get longer every day.  Our house looks spotless, with not one thing out of place.  Washing floors, walls, windows, and anything else you can think of that can be washed keeps it looking that way.  There's also plenty of reorganizing, filing, cleaning out the garage, etc.  It never seems to end. 

Since i'm dressed all the time when at home, all of the housework is done en-femme, which definitely puts me in the housewife mood, but doesn't take away from much of the drudgery.  i change into more suitable attire when i go out to run errands, only to get back into my women's clothing when i return home.

i made a couple trips to the dry cleaners this week to bring some clothes Diane took out of our large cedar closet that She plans on wearing this fall.  She would take them out and lay them on the bed before She left for work, telling me they were to be taken to the dry cleaners.  Yesterday, amid the half dozen or so items She left, was one of my maids uniforms that i hadn't worn in a while. 

"It could use a cleaning" She said.

It's a satiny black uniform, with a flared skirt edged with lacy ruffles.  There are also ruffles at the arms and neckline and a sewn in white ruffly bib front.  It clearly has the look of a costume more than a working maids outfit.  Someone seeing it would definitely know it wasn't meant for everyday maids work.

It was embarrassing to bring it to the dry cleaners.  The young girl (probably a high school aged teen working a summer job) smiled and said "Oh this is so cute" when she took it.  i had a nervous giggle and couldn't help blushing a little.  i wondered what she thought.  If she only knew what i was  wearing underneath my shorts and shirt!

Yesterday was also the start of my "period", two days earlier than i had planned.  The tampon and pad i were also set out by Diane yesterday morning.  Those two items are far more telling of my lifestyle and status than the  maids uniform i brought to the dry cleaners. 

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Being a Good Wife

We're having three other couples over for a dinner party tomorrow night.  One of them is Diane's boss at work, Ron and his wife Aliia.  The others are friends of ours with one of the couples already having met Ron and Alicia.  It's an important dinner for Diane.  Her boss has been somewhat of a mentor to her and Diane is on the short list to replace him when he retires next year. 

In preparation for tomorrow night, I've been busy all day here at home as well as running errands to get things done and pick up what we need for dinner.  As I go about my duties today dressed totally in feminine garb while at home, including my very frilly apron, I realize just how comfortable and happy I am when I do wife-like things.

I changed to go out and pick up the groceries for tomorrow night, but quickly got back into my preferred attire when I got back home.  Tomorrow night, I obviously won't be dressed while our guests are here and I'm certain Diane won't be making any inappropriate comments and ordering me around like the submissive sissy that I am.  However, I'll be helping her as much as possible, even taking primary responsibility for preparing the dinner.  Our friends know I enjoy cooking and am quite good at it, so that won't be anything unusual for them to see.

If society were more accepting, I wouldn't hesitate to don my best apron and show exactly what my role is in our marriage.   It's disappointing but understandable that I can't do that.  Diane has other ways to help fulfill my desires.

She called me just a little while ago and asked "How's my little wife doing?  Staying busy?"

I listed everything that I had done and told her what I had left to do.  She also added a couple of items to my list.

"You've been a busy girl" she said, "I hope you're not too tired when I get home or have a headache.  I'm going to want to fuck you.  You deserve it."

I love being her sissy.

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Sissy Sundays

In a little while I'm going to go shopping with Diane, something we do quite often on Sundays.  One thing about Diane is that she's very appreciative of having an understanding shopping partner to accompany her.  She's told me several times how much she enjoys it.  As I've mentioned before, no sitting on the sofa enjoying a Sunday afternoon sporting even on television for me unless it's something she's interested in.

How things have changed.  In the past, in my more masculine (but uncomfortable) days, both of us would get annoyed at the other during these shopping trips.  So much so that she would much rather go alone or with a girlfriend.  Now, I guess I'm that girlfriend.  Diane pointed out yesterday that Macy's has a lingerie sale and that we should check it out.  It's going to be one of our stops today. 

When we get back, I'm going to get dressed to the hilt and work on fixing her a nice dinner.  I'm going to be in that "1950's housewife"  mode, with a nice dress, maybe a pearl necklace, heels and a frilly apron.  I think for many married sissies, there are few outfits that make us feel more feminine.

I've also got to make some travel plans for my consulting assignment this week.  For the most part, I get to choose the hours and days that I work.  That's part of the agreement with my employer.  However, I'm really not the one who will be making my schedule most of the time.  That would be Diane.  This week I'll be gone Wednesday and Thursday so she can be with Brian.

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Sissy Sundays

The last 10 years has really seen a transformation in my behavior, and it's been more pronounced recently.  I suppose that's what happens when you live full time as your wife's "wife."  It's almost a 24/7 thing and every day brings out my femininity, but I think Sundays seem to be the best example.

For starters, weekends are always big sports days.  There seem to be dozens of professional and college sporting events on television, some of them real "big games" in their respective sports.  I used to be what many would call a sports junkie.  I followed our professional and college teams with a religious zeal and would often change my schedule to watch certain games.  Now, the only time I watch them is if Diane wants to see the game or golf match as well.  She decides.  Otherwise, I keep myself busy doing more ladylike things.

Another thing that's changed so much is my shopping habits.  In the times we live in, Sundays are the biggest shopping day of the week.  Many people don't remember the days of "blue laws" and when just about everything was closed on Sundays.  Instead of sitting home in front of the boob tube on Sundays now, I'm often gone shopping with Diane, checking out the latest deals for clothes or items for the home.  I enjoy the fact that she routinely asks me my opinion on clothes she's interested in buying and often suggests things I would look nice in.

Finally, when at home on Sundays, you can usually find me in a dress as opposed to something more casual.  It reminds me of the days when "Sunday best" was something special - just like a 1950's housewife.  I also enjoy getting dressed for a somewhat formal Sunday dinner; something I've prepared while wearing one of my favorite aprons.  While I'm doing that, Diane may be the one enjoying the game on television!

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Being "Flirty"

There's a couple of "flirty" themes to this post today.  One has to do with what I'm wearing around the house today, and the other has to do with the wedding we attended last night.

I've always been a lover of the old fashioned frilly aprons like the one's you used to see in the 1950's or 1960's in movies, magazines, etc.  This Christmas, one of the many feminine type gifts I got from Diane was a pretty pink apron made by a company called Flirty Aprons.  It's one of my favorites and Diane has given me permission to order another one from the company. 

I'm wearing it now as I go about doing a few domestic tasks and will be wearing it when I prepare and serve dinner later this afternoon.  I'm sure you'll agree that prancing about in this apron (called the "Strawberry Shortcake") certainly helps make you feel like a sissy and a wife.

As to the wedding last night, Diane got a chance to see some friends she hasn't seen in a very long time.  One friend was a guy who was in her class in high school.  We sat at the same table as he and his wife and it wasn't long before there was some mutual flirtation going on between he and Diane.  When his wife left to go talk to someone, he asked me if I minded if he danced with Diane and after telling him it was fine, they spent the next several dances together on the dance floor, some of them very slow waltzes where they seemed to be having a good time.  The flirtation continued throughout the evening until it was time to leave.

On the way home, Diane asked me if I was upset that she had danced with Brian.  She knows me well and could sense I was a little upset.  Not at the dancing, but at the flirting.  I told her how I felt and we had a very little spat about it.  It's really my fault.  I want her to cuckold me, and when something like this happens I get jealous and confused.  Maybe I'm not a good cuckold candidate.   However, I want it so badly and part of me was excited at what went on last night.  We just need to talk about it more.

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"Wear Something Pretty"

Those were Diane's instructions this morning before she left for the office.  They came immediately after asking me in a very teasing manner if "my period" was over.  I told her that it was and she followed up with the order that I be wearing something pretty when she got home tonight.  If you recall, each month I am required to wear sanitary pads for a seven day period, all part of the contract I have with my Dominant Wife Diane (DWD).

I tried to get more specifics out of her about what she would like to see me in, but it didn't work.  Whenever I get such an order struggle with it, even though I really love it.  I don't know if I should wear something like just lingerie, or dress to the nines with one of my wigs, makeup, jewelry, etc.  I prefer being told what to do, with little left for me to decide.

I'd love to be dressed like a 1950's housewife for her.  Maybe that Barbara Billingsley look in "Leave it to Beaver."  I'm sure by the time she gets home, I'll think of something.  

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