The question that prompted my decision came from a reader named "Tom" who discovered my blog a little while ago. Tom asks:
"When is the last time you had "normal" sexual relations with your wife? Or do you? And if you do - do you still have "normal" sex?Tom's question is one i've received before but it did make me stop and think, trying to remember the last time i had "normal" sex with Her, sex where i actually had intercourse with Her using my penis. Try as i might, i couldn't remember exactly when it was. i'd have to guess it was almost two years ago.If you have posted about this, I couldn't find it. Your thoughts on this topic I think would be very interesting to share."
i'd be lying if i said that i didn't miss it. There are times where i feel i really want to, especially when we're in bed and being intimate, when i'm worshiping Her and pleasing Her orally. After She's had an orgasm, i would try to get between Her and suggest that i make love to Her like a man would his wife and she would very casually and teasingly rebuff me by simply saying "Uh-uh....that's not for sissies."
While Diane hasn't come right out and said this, i believe She finds having sex with me as a man of little interest to Her. This is especially true as Her relationship with Her lover Paul has blossomed. Diane and i still have sex together. Quite a bit actually. It just doesn't involve intercourse in the "normal" way.
To a submissive male who's looking for a dominant woman all this might sound like "submissive heaven" It isn't. Sometimes when i get those urges being rebuffed by Her is difficult.
However, the urges don't come as frequently as they used to. As i've become more comfortable with who i am, and especially who i am in my relationship with Diane, i'm dealing with it better than i used to.
Despite the lack of traditional male-female sex, Diane's never once stopped reassuring me of Her love for me. That's the most important thing to me.
After all, ours is not a "traditional" marriage. Why should we have traditional sex with one another?